Adiyen’s mother passed away while returning from Thirumogur temple in an accident. While my brother performed the last rites, as a daughter what should adiyen do for the well-being of her soul?
Vidwan’s reply
A woman should observe three days of asaucam following the death of a father or mother. She can help the brother or the karthan by assisting physically in cooking or aid monetarily for the ceremony during masyam and shrardham days.
Can adiyen draw Perumal and Thayar as a kolam during Thiruvadipporam and Janmashtami?
Vidwan’s reply
If we draw Perumal and Thayar in kolam, it will be disheartening when we wipe it clean, more over we should be mindful that our legs do not come in contact with the kolam so it is better to avoid such drawings.
Adiyen, my daughter who is in college does not accept when we forbid her not to worship Perumal sannidhi or visit temple during menstrual period. When she asks for explanations, we are unable to make her understand. Out of our compulsion she started worshipping Perumal at home and visits temple once a month. We feel that your explanation will convince her so kindly help us.
Vidwan’s reply
When we are physically unwell or tired, our energy level is very low. At times, even negative thoughts are also result. During such times, it is better that we do not spread negative energy to others.
When the physical body is greatly impacted and when negative thoughts pervade mind, it is not appropriate to visit temple. That is, the Agamas have said that during such period, it is not right to worship Perumal or perform tiruvaradhanam; doing so might result in severe offences being committed. This is applicable to both Men and Women.
Scientifically speaking, menstrual period is when negative energy is in abundance. To provide rest for the weak mind and body, this type of arrangement has been put in place. With noble intentions, it is said that one must take rest during this period. Even with many advantages during present times, it is advisable to accept the benefits provided by the scriptures.
She can be convinced with the modern-day approach initially and later she can be taught about our tradition. You can try talking with her using logic like “Usually when we ask you visit temples, you will not come and when we say not to visit temples at certain times you oppose”.
When we are sick our energy level is down and at times, we have negative energy so it is better that we do not pollute the environment with our negative energy, so we can prohibit ourselves in visiting temples at this period. (In their words, “We must not pollute/liter the environment, we have to save our environment”. These are socially and morally accepted claims by the kids today).
Above all, parents should sincerely pray to the Divine Couple for the well-being of the child. Father shall recite Vishnu Sahasranama every day and mother shall recite Sri Stuti, Bhoo Stuti and Godha Stuti for the child to tread the proper path.
Can women recite Prabandham?
Vidwan’s reply
Yes, women can recite Prabhandam.
