On my husband’s side, the agnates (kinsmen – my father-in-law’s 4 brothers and their children) are alive. Most of us live either live in India or at the USA. Recently my father-in-law’s elder brother and his son attained the eternal abode. Even though we observed 10 days of asaucam, I have doubts about the rules and rituals to follow when an agnate attains eternal abode and I pray to the Vidwans that these doubts be clarified so that it is valuable for us and the generations to come. My father-in-law is alive – given this, must my husband perform kuzhi tharpanam on the 10th day wherever he is at? Can we render services at Perumal temples? Can Perumal be brought in procession to our residence as part of Dolotsavam? Can we light maavilakku during the month of Purattasi and are we allowed to celebrate the Tirunakshatrams of Perumal and Acaryas? Can we celebrate other festivals such as Varusha Pirappu, Navarathri, Deepavali, Karthikai, Kanu, etc.? Kindly forgive me for a lengthy query.